Month: February 2017

5 Things you Don’t Know about Sex Trafficking

Important things to know too.

4-5-million-11. Not your average P.I.M.P
The Pimp Stereotype propagated by the media grossly exaggerates how women, men and children find themselves victims of Sex Trafficking. Though, there is truth to the Pimp captured by Pop Culture, more often than not recruiters or Pimps are more subtle in their approach to trafficking victims. This method is called ‘Grooming’ where the recruiter will manipulate the victim and eventually use their influence coupled with threats of violence to push them into involuntary prostitution.

2. Men and Boys can be victims of Sex Trafficking
Women and girls are not the only victims, men and particularly boys are vulnerable to the same mistreatment, exploitation, and abuse. The “And Boys Too” by End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography and the Trafficking of Children for Sexual Purposes (ECPAT-USA), asserts that over half of the victims of Child Sexual Exploitation in the US are boys.

3. Women can be Recruiters for…

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Giving Back on a Budget Part 3!

Writing Radiation

If you need a reminder what I’m talking about, here’s a link to the first & second parts for my Giving Back on a Budget series.

Here’s another secret for giving back on a budget: People need your hair.  This method of giving is deeply personal for me, & it might be the most rewarding.  However, it limits what you can do with your hair & you need to care for your hair until it reaches a certain length.  That’s why I think it’s also the most difficult way to give back on a budget.

But, I’ll come back to the “why” later on.

This type of donation is personal for me because my Mom was diagnosed with cancer when she was 6 months pregnant with me.  Chemotherapy took her hair, but gave her 12 more years of life.

I remember how ashamed Mom was whenever anyone outside the family…

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“That man is lucky to be raped by that gorgeous woman.”


“However, these 28 lucky individuals probably don’t receive a lot of complaints.”

This is one of the posts on the website called Wild Ammo that I came across while searching for images related to sex offenders for my dissertation. Titled ‘28 Convicts You Wouldn’t Mind As A Registered Sex Offender‘, you may want to vomit already.
The gallery contains mugshots of attractive women portrayed to have been arrested for sexual offences, and it implies if you are a straight man, you would surely enjoy getting raped by this attractive woman
This is a pathetic reflection of the gender inequality and norms in our global society. Men are automatically assumed to like sex and they are actually considered ‘lucky’ to be sexually assaulted. If not, he must surely be homosexual.
“Man, I wish I was ‘raped’ instead.”
“He is so lucky! That woman was hot!”
“If he’s complaining, he’s gay. Give her to me instead.”
These are many of the comments we’ve heard of whenever someone posts about a rape of a male.

Some  actual comments on the gallery


People are asking to be raped.

(Not all of the comments were stupid. There were quite a bit commenting on how it’s still an offence whether it’s an attractive woman or not.)

This idea that men cannot deny the offer of sex or that men will always want sex is also a form of gender inequality. Male victims are not show any sympathy and are instead considered a ‘lucky bastard’ by many others. Their pain is disregarded and, most times, laughed at.

The patriarchy hurts not only women, but men. That is why when I, as a feminist, and many others, stand for the fight for equality between men and women (and also other genders), I know that I fight not only for women, but for men. For men to be able to show their feelings, for men to be able to say no to sex! For men to be feminine or what society deems as such, and for men to not always be horny!
(Also: if you assent to being “raped”, technically, you’re not being raped, but rather engaging in consensual sex. Unless you’re a minor of course.)

Morality and Victim Blaming in South Asian Societies

Nepali Chhori

By Kanchan Gautam

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Recently while browsing through a selection of movies on Netflix, I happened upon a Bollywood movie. Usually, I stay away from Bollywood cinema, as they tend to lack depth and are riddled with gender role stereotypes. However, when I saw the description for Pink, I was intrigued. It seemed to veer from the typical Bollywood story of romance and thrills.  Additionally, with 136 minutes run time, it seemed to be reasonably short for Bollywood standards, so I decided to throw caution to the wind and watch it. I have to say besides the melodramatic portrayal of a retired lawyer played by Amitabh Bachan and some unrealistic court scenes, the movie’s depiction of how assault victims are treated in South Asian culture is very accurate. We have seen this many times, not just in Asian cultures, but here in Western society as well. People…

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